Fueling the fire.

If there is something we all learn eventually, its that we need to keep our own fires burning. I dont mean that in a negative connotation, but something positive. Even though it takes years of practise to realize, we are infact capable of keeping them raging. 

Whats the fire actually stand for you ask? Your happiness, your passion, your determination. You see, we dont need someone to tell us how wonderful we are, we should just know, but society has and continues to strip us of that power. The point im making from a mothers perspective is, i want my kids to have self-love, self-respect and be highly resilient, but also gentle, be kind and compassionate. Its up to us to ignite their flame and give them the tools to make there own fuel to keep their own fire burning. Teach them that although the world is full of blithering  wankers, that they can still make the world a better place.

We are teaching the next generation,  the generation thats going to have to reverse all the damage done thanks to us, our parents, grandparents and so on. We ignite the flame, and we keep ours burning.

The Three Bears NZ

Open for business 

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Deflated but elated.

If you follow my blog and read my posts you know that I stopped breast feeding about 3 weeks ago. Unfortunately, as much as it was out of my control, I still find myself feeling guilty about it. I have to constantly remind myself that I did what I could, I did well and I chose to do what was best for the both of us.

Apart from that and the lack in sleep things have been really good. Our boy is blossoming each and every day and our love is ever growing. I am so proud to be a Mother and I’m finding my role more natural as the days melt into weeks and the weeks into months. 

But it has come to my attention that my breasts are almost completely empty and I can’t help but notice these two plastic bags on my chest. My two only bras no longer fit, and as much as I am a positive force, I’m still human and I can’t help but feel a little, well, deflated occasionally.

It’s incredible the amount of changes a woman’s body is constantly going through. In my initial naivety I assumed that once my child was no longer inside of me that my body would soon return to it’s normal state..NOPE. Can you believe my surprise when I found my body still changing?

It’s going to take a long time to get used to this new body of mine. But I am teaching myself to love this body everyday! Now that I’ve started yoga it’s already helping me become open and receptive to all the positive vibrations this beautiful earth has to offer. I choose to love myself and take actions toward engraving that into my heart.

Love yourself ladies, you are all beautiful and incredible!

The Three Bears NZ.


The Gratitude Challenge #1.

I’ve decided to give the 52 week gratitude challenge a start as of today.

I would love to teach myself to see more beauty and have more appreciation for the little things. We need more positivity and open mindedness in our world; now that I have a gorgeous baby boy, I need to be the absolute best I can be.

I need him to see how being open to all of the good in life can bring more and more good into ones life! Love is more powerful than hate!

Feeling very thankful today!

The Three Bears NZ.

Keeping myself in line #1

I am writing this as my day progresses in a diary like format.

Now I realize that I seem to complain about sleep a lot, and I do and will probably continue to do so! I’m one of these unfortunate buggers that simply can’t cope without a certain amount of shut eye. I really am the definition of a “Mombie” most days at this point in time. BUT unfortunately for me I made it public that I would now post about my food intake daily; who’s idea was that?!

This morning I managed a bowl of coconut muesli, oat milk, natural yogurt and a smoothie. The smoothie was unsuccessful as my kale to everything else in the damn smoothie ratio was totally off and resulted in tasting like the paddock of uncle Charlie’s pet bull Henry.

My son has his first hearing test so in our hectic rush trying to get him fed, changed and dressed, I managed to quickly grab some organic rice crackers and a tapenade dip I made last night with some almonds. We managed to furiously eat in the car without getting too much food on our laps.

We have indulged on some sushi; I regret nothing.

We are ended our evening with a lovely dinner cooked by a close friend; spelt pasta bake with beautiful home grown vegetables, mince and various other healthy ingredients. A dairy free version was offered and an Asian styled salad.

All in all, one of my better days as I snacked on almonds or raw bliss balls in between meals. Perhaps I will start taking photos instead of writing a novel..

Tomorrow brings a new morning and whole new beautiful world! And I’m super excited for yoga! Yay!

The Three Bears NZ

Love Thyself.

I’ve been struggling to look after myself ‘properly’ ever since Torben entered this world. I promised myself a walk a day, to exclude dairy from my diet and to attempt earlier nights. I know it does no one any good, specifically myself, to beat myself up over empty promises. But I can’t help but feel disappointed in myself.

A friend of mine and I have signed up for beginners yoga and I am enthralled that it’s one thing I certainly can’t or won’t make excuses to get out of. The dog ate my yoga pants just won’t cut it.


Vegetable breakfast bowl with grilled haloumi + turmeric yogurt and homemade basil pesto.

I am a qualified chef so I absolutely love food and cooking; it’s one of my passions. Since becoming a mother I find myself having only moments of being absolutely adamant about my strict diet, the other half I resort to ‘I’m too tired to cook, let’s get pizza with all of the extra mozzarella’. If i’m going to have bad food, i might as well have all of the bad food. That’s logic, right?

When I do have the energy to make a healthy meal I love cooking and using clean, green and as much organic ingredients as I can! It brings me a lot of joy to feed myself and those that I love. So why can’t I be consistent at the moment?


Bulgar wheat with basil + cherry tomatoes + cashews + olives + goat’s milk feta and apple cider vinegar dressing.

For me, it all boils down to how tired I am on any given day, which at the moment seems to be all of the time; it’s just one annoying cycle.

  1. I’m tired because I don’t get to bed early or take advantage of the sleep that is available to me.
  2. I don’t get to bed early enough because I’m trying to clean the house so I don’t wake up to a mess.
  3. I clean the house so I don’t wake up to a mess because I want to have time to cook a healthy breakfast, lunch and dinner.
  4. But I wake up the next morning tired. 

And thus the cycle starts again!

However, I have an idea to keep myself in check and to finally break the cycle!

  1. I will post a recipe, photo or ‘food diary’ each day!
  2. I must have a class on the go at any given time that I am able to do whilst recovering from my c-section.

I don’t plan on counting calories and weighing myself, that’s not my reason for any of this. I want to be a healthier, happier me. I want to be able to chase my little bear cub around and not feel like Harry Heartattack!

Does anyone else have this problem? Leave your story in the comments!

All of the love and support,

The Three Bears NZ.

Lets connect!

To all of you amazing pregnancy, motherhood, parenting and all round blogs! LETS CONNECT! I would love to know more about the amazing blogs on this platform!

img_20170205_135317_989I’ll start! I’m Alexa, 24 years, I am a first time mother to a beautiful little bear cub named Torben! I have a passion for graphic design, photography and drumming! Even though it’s been awhile I’m learning to reconnect with myself! I’m also into alternative health, aromatherapy (I’m learning) and positive thinking!

I started this blog to give an honest view as a first time mother and as an outlet to connect with other individuals of the same state of mind.

I can’t wait to look at your blogs! I would love to get to know you incredible individuals!


Leave a comment introducing yourself and your blog! 

All of the love and support,

The Three Bears NZ.