Our three days off.

We are just at the very end of 3 whole nights without our wee cub, and, we don’t have a whole lot to show for it, other than feeling a whole lot more human!

All that study I said I would do? Ended up being swapped for playing Xbox games with my partner. Catching up on the house work turned into making more of a mess haha, and going out for multiple walks turned into “babe, can you make more popcorn?”

We are currently on the way to getting our wee cub and I can’t wait to see his beautiful smiley face ❤ even if my health has ever so slightly diminished…ha.

All the love and support,

The Three Bears NZ.

We plant the seed.

It’s a massive responsibility, realizing just how much influence you have over this little human you created. Constantly watching yourself and trying to enforce positive routines, positive environments and habits. To be honest, I’ve started implementing these routines almost more so for myself.

Nathan and I have never been good at routine, that’s why we never really set one for Torben prior to now. I mean, as mothers we really do want to have family breakfast and dinner sitting at the table, we want to bath our children every single night just before bed, and we want to get these little humans of ours sleeping through, but! It’s easier said than done. Because who has to actually enforce these routines? That’s right, us.

We are only human, sometimes we let that family dinner slide because your little one is out of whack, or your simply too tired to give them a proper bath so the shower it is and if you have had a very long stressful day a wet cloth will do.

We love our children, but we need to learn to love ourselves enough to know and be okay with imperfections. We are raising our children with all the love and positivity we can muster after all!

All the love and support,

The Three Bears NZ.

Happiness comes in all forms.

I couldn’t help but share these beautiful flowers. Isn’t it amazing what our incredible mother earth provides? 

Happiness is being able to pick fresh flowers from the garden.

Gratitude #3

My circumstance is a little different to most when it comes to family, but I am all the more fortunate for how things have ended up!

It’s as if there was divine intervention when I was bought into this world. Adopted from birth, and raised by the two most loving parents, gifted from a selfless mother who wanted a better life to give. I’m also lucky enough to have a solid relationship with my biological older sister and father.

Since having our little cub and being with an incredible partner I am also so lucky to be part of a whole new family experience. I consider myself highly grateful to be included with my partners amazing and highly loving family.

When I sit here and think of my family now, I feel like I might burst at the seams with all of the love and kindness.

I am full of gratitude, I am full of love, I am open to a new and deeper experience of family.

All of the love and support,

The Three Bears NZ.

My personal top 10 items for new Mama’s!

Since becoming a mother I have found certain items that I simply couldn’t and cannot live without. When I was pregnant and constantly preparing for the arrival of our cub I thought I needed everything. I wanted to be as prepared as I could possibly be! So, here’s my list of thing’s I have personally found invaluable to motherhood and raising a child; This is no particular order and it is not sponsored, these are simply items I use and love.

  • product-medela-swingbreastpump3Medela Swing Breast pump – Knowing what I know now, I will take this to the hospital with me when I’m giving birth to our next cub. When your milk comes in, your breasts will be extremely engorged, lumpy and painful. I found from the advice of my amazing Mama friends, a hot shower with a boobie massage and a good pump relieved this completely. Plus in those first weeks your breasts are learning how much your child is going to need so often your child won’t be able to empty your breasts, in which case the pump is amazing to finish the job. Why Medela?  The Medela Swing Breast Pump is an electric breast pump that is designed to mimic a baby’s actual nursing. Phase 1, the stimulation phase, is a rapid pumping rhythm to get your milk flowing. Phase 2, the expression phase, is a slower pumping rhythm for gentle and efficient expression – Information courtesy of http://www.ohbaby.co.nz. HIGHLY RECOMMEND. – Medela swing pump
  • Netflix – You’re going to spend so much time in those early weeks constantly feeding, so you might as well invest in something that will help you maintain some sanity and prevent boredom! Besides, it’s a lot easier than trying to master using your cellphone whilst breastfeeding!

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  • Muslin wraps – I didn’t think that I would use them all that much when I was pregnant, I was so wrong! They are awesome to take with you when you’re on the go as a spare blanket, a changing mat, burp cloths, breastfeeding cover and the list goes on!  – Wraps

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  • Mum 2 Mum Dream Swaddle – An awesome product that prevents our cub from startling himself but also keeps him nice and wrapped up and is SO MUCH EASIER to use than a wrap when you have a wriggly child. I’m confident that this product has helped our cub’s nights sleeps go from 2 hours to 4 -5 hours. It’s also much more affordable than a lot of sleep bags on the market. – Mum 2 Mum Dream Swaddle
  • 002823166Bonds wondersuits – These are well designed and thought out onesies! They have a two way zip which means you don’t have to deal with a million buttons to change your cubs nappy, but they are exceptionally soft and warm! Awesome for nightwear or the colder months, plus they come in awesome patterns and colours Bonds Wondersuits
  • Snack food – You won’t have much time to cook, so grab and eat food is essential. I always have nuts, popcorn, brown rice crackers, carrots and celery with hummus, muesli with yogurt, heaps of fresh fruit and homemade frozen meals on the go! You won’t regret being overly prepared with food! And don’t beat yourself up for eating a lot of takeaways, sometimes you just can’t be bothered organizing food, and that’s absolutely fine!
  • Nursery_storage_rolling_cartA wheeled trolley changing station – This has been an awesome investment! We currently live in a two story flat and the thought of having to constantly go up and down the stairs to fetch clothes, nappies and various other items from our cubs nursery seems like a waste of time. Specially when you have a screaming wee cub, not fun. It’s just plain convenient.
  • A comfortable chair – You’re going to be feeding through the night A LOT and will find yourself falling asleep constantly in those early weeks. I personally found breastfeeding in bed after a week was giving me a bad back so I had to change to a seated position which I found much more comfortable. I highly recommend a comfortable chair for your cubs nursery!
  • nappy clutch.jpgPortable nappy wallet
    – This has been an awesome product! When you’re on the go and need to change that poopy nappy (which you absolutely will, trust me). These are perfect and super convenient! They have a slot for nappies, wipes and nappy bags. You can buy all different shapes, sizes, patterns and they just fit in your handbag!
  • doTERRA Essential Oils essential-oils-in-love-with-essential-oils.png– Remember, mama is also important, so don’t forget to look after yourself as well. Having a little routine every day just to keep your sanity is absolutely fine and you deserve it! My routine is at night, once our cub is down I have a hot shower, get into bed and  apply organic coconut oil with doTERRA lavender to my stretch marks , then I rub my doTERRA lavender, marjoram and cedarwood into my hands and inhale to release all the tension that was in my day! You can use essential oils to help with your beautiful cub as well! Such as lavender—One of the many benefits of Lavender is its calming properties. When you have a very unsettled baby it works wonders! Lavender oil has been used for centuries to soothe skin, ease feelings of tension, and promote a relaxing atmosphere. Add a few drops to a spray bottle with water and mist cot sheets to promote feelings of restful sleep. You might also try diluting a drop of Lavender with coconut oil for a soothing baby bedtime massage! My favourite is a couple of drops in our cubs bath. Worth every cent! – doTERRA. (Click join and save).

Those are my most favoured products! I hope it helps you gorgeous Mama’s and Mama’s to be!

All the love and support,

The Three Bears NZ.

The big and the small.

Firstly, I apologize for not posting as much as I usually do. Our little family is currently on the move for the next couple of weeks and when I do have the chance to sit down and update the blog I find myself slowly nodding off and waking to find an entire sentence that makes zero sense.

This is the first year in many where I have made an effort to jot down some short term and long term goals. When I sat down to write this list I didn’t really realize just how many things I would be willing to try to attain. 

Unlike other lists I’ve attempted, this list ranges from: clean the oven, become fit and healthy to find a tangible home income. I have the big, the small, the short and long-term. It brings me great satisfaction between a sleeping child to conquer the small things and slowly chip away at the larger goals.

This year is the single most hectic year thus far of my life and I honestly couldn’t be more fulfilled at this present time. But having a goal list helps me stay grounded. In this early blur of motherhood, which 99 percent of us ensure, I find myself being very flighty; I’m in a constant state of forgetting the current task I was working on. I’ll start the dishes and halfway through start hanging the washing out then have the need to relieve myself and start cleaning the bathroom. 

The list is an invaluable part of my life now. And how satisfying it is to cross those goals off!

All of the love and support,

The Three Bears NZ.

Stigmas of a Mother.

As we grow our children and into our role as mothers, both physically and spiritually, we are constantly bombarded with advice and judgements.

If a mother chooses to breastfeed her child in public she’s bombarded with criticism, when a mother chooses to formula feed her child she’s also bombarded with criticism. The single most unfortunate thing about these stigmas, it seems to  be other woman; Mothers, bestowing their ‘god like’ judgement upon their fellow woman.

After having problems producing enough milk for my hungry wee cub, I decided for my sanity and my poor cubs little tummy, to switch to formula. It’s only been a couple of weeks, yet people haven’t hesitated to show their distaste. No wonder when I go to the doctors, nurses or I have to feed our child in public I feel ashamed to declare this fact. How unfair it is, that I we as mothers are made to feel that way! Breast is best?! More like shut your mouth Barabara you haven’t had a child under 43 for 100 years!

I’m currently in a state of mind in which I have to constantly remind myself that the choices I make are in the best interest of my child, because they are. A mother who has looked after her needs is a good mother, no, a great mother.

If a mother chooses to do her makeup, straighten her hair, go to the hair salon, take a 10 minute time-out, breastfeed, formula feed, let her child play computer games, enforce her child to play outside, co-sleep, promote self-settling, let her child cry, hold her child close that is her choice as a mother.

It is our duty as woman, to withhold our judgement, to apply self-awareness to the judgements that do pop up in our head and alter those thoughts into empathetic, supportive and understanding wavelengths.

I’m sick of people in general constantly feeling the need to spread their ‘anticipated’ advice. Did I ask for it? NO! Some of the information is useful, but that doesn’t make it any less annoying. Just remember the next time you open your fat gob to some poor heavily pregnant woman who’s been told “Enjoy the peace and quiet whilst it last’s honey!” a dozen times in that week alone or that poor mother who hasn’t had a full night’s sleep in, well, she can’t remember.. They don’t want to hear it. Every child is completely different and we will or are learning our child. Specially if you haven’t got your own children!

My greatest piece of advice I can offer: instead of passing judgment or pointless advice, tell her how awesome she rocks that baby belly or how amazing that mother at the checkout with a child having a full blown tantrum is doing! Or, if you have friends that are pregnant or having a young child, offer your help, bring them food, coffee, compliments and support.

The Three Bears NZ.